The habit of lying is a toxic practice that can eventually break down a strong relationship. Healthy and vibrant relationships are built on honesty. No relationship can survive, let alone thrive, without openness and integrity. Relationships that are healthy, cheerful and balanced are characterized by real people who are in touch with their authentic selves. It is hard to give what you don’t have; honesty begins with you. If you expect the trust of someone, you must come clean and demonstrate honesty and integrity from the beginning and maintain it throughout the entire relationship.
When trust is lost in a relationship, it gives way for distrust and misunderstanding. Deceit can be one of the quickest ways to strip that needed trust from a relationship. It is a common problem with many people nowadays affecting their happiness and choices. The potential damage and complications that surround lying are things to consider when telling lies. For a relationship to work there should be a balance of effort from both parties; they must give an equal commitment to it. This balance of effort creates the feeling of trust and understanding that strengthened a relationship. On the other hand, lying disturbs the flow of this natural equilibrium and causes an imbalance in the relationship. For the victim of a lie, the experience can be devastating and make them feel as though they have put their all their heart on the line, only to be disappointed by a deceptive partner. Lies told in close relationships will cause a great deal of pain, heartache, and undermine the intimacy and ties you have with your partner.
Lying does nothing good for a relationship, it only prolongs issues and makes situation get worse in the long run. No matter which way you may try to spin it, lying doesn’t solve anything; it causes people to act differently which tend to undermine the bond that holds relationships together.
When you lie, you hurt your mind and keep yourself out of touch with reality. You disguise and project deceit and falsehood to your partner. He/she may not know that you are telling lies, but right within, you know the truth because you can only lie to people but not yourself. The guilt of deceit will hang on unless you decide to change and come out clean. If you wish to develop a healthy relationship you have to treat your partner with respect and dignity, you have to stop lying and live uprightly.
Lying won’t solve problems. It can only provide momentary satisfaction which will fade away with time. It may cover the shame and the guilt for the moment, but will not render a realistic solution to the problem. The moment you realize this vital point the good for you to seek to eradicate lies from your life before it wreaks uncontrollable havoc. Lying hurts the ones we care about the most, sometimes when we lie, we do so to get ourselves out of a sticky situation. We may not mean to harm our partners. But in reality, lies do hurt. By concealing the truth, you are depriving your partner vital information, and when the truth is known, they will feel betrayed by you. The feeling of betrayer can lead to a breakdown in communication which can create a crack in the cohesiveness of a relation. Love doesn’t hurt, but lies do; and the moment you start telling lies, it is no longer love. Honesty improves our vitality, endears us to friends and loved ones. It engenders confidence, strengthens our willpower and represents us in the best way for others to emulate. Being honest with yourself is a great way to build trust, rise above life challenges, gain self-acceptance, and develop genuineness for a healthy relationship.
This book offers a sound and reliable roadmap to building trust and emotional intimacy in a relationship. You will learn about what you can do to promote an atmosphere of honesty around you and generate a steady flow of trust in your relationship.